I have been going out with my bf for about 3 n half months and until last wk it had been going great.... then his car broke down and i asked me to stear it while he pushed neways i was going too fast downhill so he started screaming at me which shocked me and so i stopped the car and when he tried to talk to me normally i was so shocked and angry that i swore @ him so he told me to get the f**k outta his car so i did we ended up having this massive row which ended up with him screaming he neva wanted to c me again and me breaking down in tears. as soon as he saw me crying he said he culdn't believe what he had done and kept saying that he was soo sorry but eva since that i have been kinda scared of him, now if I don't do things the first time he asks me 2 he gets angry he hasn't lost it like that since but im soo scared he will i don't know whether i should dump him or what i should do .. plz help me, i don't wanna dump him but i also don't wanna be in a relationship where im unhappy
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--- Tuesday, December 28, 2004 -
Answer by: susie
him flipping out at you was wrong but i can understand it.....sort of. However if your scared of him and he still flips out at you then dump him. You dont need to be and a verbally abusive relationship and if he yells at you and scares you then thats just what you are in. SO think about it and see if this is whats going on or if that flipping out was just a one time thing. If it was then maybe talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. If your too scared to do this then what kind of relationship are you in anyways?
--- Tuesday, December 28, 2004 -
Answer by: AutumnsTragedy
I really don't think you should dump him.
It must have taken you really aback to have heard him shouting at you angrily, but you have to rememeber, he was in a stressfull situation and guys don't usually pay attention to there tone of voice. He was out of line, but think about the times that you have lost your temper and yelled at your parents? It's really the same thing, If it becomes an everyday thing then I'd worry but other then that, these things happen. I mean, you know you're parents have yelled at one another every now and then.
--- Sunday, December 26, 2004 - Talk to him
Answer by: some_guy_542
I'm pretty surethat he has learned his lessons from that one time, but if his anger gets out of control and he does it too much, then the relationship will get worse. Also, you should tell him how you feel about his anger and how scared you are of him. Hope this helps
--- Friday, December 24, 2004 - it's ur choice
Answer by: Benign Lover
It all depends on u GreenFairy, ur b.f is one of the people who can't tolerate himself or whom are around when he's angry or pissedoff!! so if u love him u'll bear him but from what i see is that u were just giving him a hand u deserve to be thanked not shouted at?!!! so my advice u dump him, u'll suffer little but when you find the one suitable for u , respects u and appreciates ur help u'll never suffer again. don't think so?? GIVE IT A THOUGHT GIRL.
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