Title: I'm having a serious problem

By: some_guy_542

In summer of 2003, I met this girl. We got along pretty well, and we have been good friends. We talk on the phone and AIM from time to time. She even introduced her friends to me. I really thought the friendships I developed with the girl and her friends was really strong. However, there are and have been serious problems...

The big problem is that I have never met any of her friends, and the last time I saw her was when driver's ed ended. She and her friends say that all of us would hang out, but to this day (for about 1.5 years) we have not hung out or met. Not ONCE. Sometimes, I invite them to hang out somewhere and every time i ask, they always say, "well, we're doing something else" ; "we're drunk" ; "we're going to a party and we can't hang out with you now" ; "you don't have a driver's license". The thing I hear most of the time is that the girls just go pick a random thing and they go do whatever they want and they really don't arrange things. I really feel like I did a lot for them. i gave them cards, i call them, I IM them, I do a lot of things. But, all we do is talk. when it comes to actuaally doing things, these girls are very unreliable. Whenever I ask them about hanging out, they always bullshit me every time I talk to them about it. Sometimes, I would say why it is serious and they would get mad at me. They would say they hate me and they would curse at me when i talk to them about it. I have been showing these girls a lot of friendship and they really need to give me someting back. I asked and told people about it and my other friends said that these girls probably don't want to hang out with me. The girls do all kinds of things all the time, and they have never invited me to join them. We live in the same state and only about 30 or so minutes away, so I don't know what the problem is. I mean, I'm sure that it's erious if ppl have known each other and not even met. But these girls probably do not care. They say that hanging out and arranging is hard to work out, but they hang out all the time. I don't know why they treat me like this.

The girls PROMISED me that they would send me a card for Christmas like they did last year. I did send them a Christmas e-card (that e-card was one out of 21 e-cards sent out to all my friends). After waiting, I asked if they made me a card for Christmas, and they said "no". At that point I was very angry, sad, and disappointed. I never knew that these so-called "friends" would be so unreliable. They said that they did not have enough time. However, winter break is 2 weeks long. They had plenty of time to make that card and they knew that. I just could not believe that they would step down so low. I learned later that the girls have spent most of their winter break getting trashed and shopping.....omg I was so mad it was unbelieveable....

For a year and a half, I have been putting up with their bullshit and their excuses. These girls really need to give me something back, and they really do not. But when we talk, it's a lot of fun. Can someone please help me? thanks.....

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Sunday, January 9, 2005 - Don't get the hint?
Answer by: bongvee

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Friday, January 7, 2005 - help needed ?
Answer by: love pro adviser

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Thursday, January 6, 2005 -
Answer by: phoebeee

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Thursday, January 6, 2005 - Well help is here and available
Answer by: love pro adviser

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Thursday, January 6, 2005 - by the way
Answer by: some_guy_542