Okay, I'm just looking for advice on a situation that I'm just not sure how to handle... Alright, basically my high school had a school dance on Saturday night, and it was a formal, so you guys would ask girls as dates and stuff. I brought a girl that I have a huge crush on, but I'm not sure how she feels about me. Well anyways, I was pretty excited about the night because I thought it would be a good way for us to sort off hit it off and I was hoping that she would have a really good time with me. Yet every time we would go out on the floor to dance, we would dance for maybe about 1 song, and then she would get pulled over by one of her friends to go do whatever girls do when that happens, and she would say "I'll be right back." The first few times this happened I was alright, even though I would lose track of her when she went off, but then after about 10-15 minutes I would eventually find her again somewhere on the dance floor. However, this was a recurring event throughout the night. Everytime we danced, she ended up having to go somewhere else with her friends, although every time she left she would be like "I'm really sorry, I'll be right back!" But every time she would get distracted or something and I would have to track her down. Eventually I grew sick of this, and I didn't want to maker her feel awkward or anything by following her around all the time when maybe she just didn't want to be around me. I was pretty upset about this event that night, although when I dropped her off at her car which was at a friend's house she was very grateful that I had taken her to the dance, and when I told her that she had looked great that night she was also thankful, even though she isn't the type of person that would tell you that she had had a bad time or anything. But yeah, I was still bummin about it and wondering why she acted that way since I'm not ugly or mean or anything, and that since I was nice enough to ask her to the dance in the first place, the least she could do would be to spend a little time with me at the dance. However, a friend of mine the next day asked her online how things went with me, and she told him that she didn't get to see me that much, and he said he thought she almost seemed disappointed and that she "missed" me. This really has put me in a tough position...first of all, I was upset at the way she had acted, but it seems that she is upset at me too or something. But then again, my friend said he wasn't sure exactly how she felt, that she only SEEMED disappointed, since its really hard to tell like the tone and everything of a conversation online. Basically I'm wondering, what the hell do I do?? I feel awful if that's the way she feels, because that was not my intention whatsoever, but then again, I felt pretty terrible myself due to her actions, which may have been unintentional as well. I was thinking of talking to her about it, but if my friend was mistaken on interpreting what she said to him, I don't want to apologize to her and then have her think of me as some sap with crazy roller-coaster emotions, since I still really would like to go out with her at some point. What should I do to fix this situation, or is there nothing I can do really? I would really appreciate all responses, and if I can remember any other important details I will post them on the same page again. Thanks for any help.
hey well if you didn't want to do it @ school or online why don't you do it over the phone as its private and you will be able to tell her tone of voice... also if you don't wanna look like a sap then don't apoligise because come on man what do you have to apoligise for? you did nothing wrong. no one can tell you if she likes you apart from her so ask her! whats the worst that could happen..? she could turn you down? at least you will find out how she feels :D good luck xx
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Answer by: rainmaker2015
Thanks a lot for both of your advice...I was wondering though, do you think it would be better for me to talk to her in person, which would be most likely at school where there aren't too many good places to talk privately like that, or is it better to do it online, which is private but you can't like get their tone of voice and expressions and stuff? Any insight would be fantastic. Thanks again for the responses, they help.
hollas! hmmm well iread that whole damn thing. geez well u noe i think that's just how girls are...they may not realize it (like when she was being pulled away from u on the dance florr or whatever) its like we dont mean too but of course we want to hang out...but its not like u guys were together to be like dancing all the time...dont worry if she doesnt like u, she obviously does. and oomm whatever just talk to her and hang out like one on one not with her friends its a lot easier. any way thats all igotta say
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--- Wednesday, February 2, 2005 - I GOT SOME ADVICE THAT MIGHT HELP!!!
Answer by: LiLOnE
in life u have to take alot of risk sometimes they are big and other times they are small. i belive that you should take a risk and talk to her maybe ur friend might have mistaken on iterpreting what she said but you wont know untill u ask her about it talk to her it might not be the easiest thing to do but u should do it because if u dont later on in life u might wonder wat would have happened if u would have talked to her. hope this helps a little
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