Title: Confused

By: luvalbe_kitten

My boyfriend broke up with me on Thursday night after 6 weeks.

He said that he likes me a lot, but he has just gotten out of two serious relationships in a row and the way we are going, it's going to be serious and he isn't ready for another one. He also said it would be sly on me if we stay together because he couldn't put all his heart into it which would be unfair on me.

I'm confused...I try to tell myself I will be ok, but I'm not ok. I don't understand.

Firstly, our relationship wasn't even that serious. In saying that, I don't mean we saw other people. I mean, we were still getting to know each other...still trying to open each other up.

Secondly, if he wasn't ready then why did he ask me out in the first place? Surely it was going to lead to seriousness at some stage.

But I can assure you that it was no way near as serious as he made it out to be. He made it out that it was getting really serious, but we only saw each other once or twice a week and I definitely did not make him feel uncomfortable by making things serious or anything.

The only serious thing would be if he was falling in love with me, because then I can understand that is serious for him.

Thirdly, if he really liked me so much then surely he'd talk to me about it and we can take things slow...surely there's no need to end it right then and there? And surely if he really liked me so much, he can overcome his fear of being ready...

I'm sorry if I'm over reacting. I just don't know what to think. The first 4 weeks was great. Then he started going weird on me. I think that must've been when he realised he wasn't ready. Yet it dragged on for another 2 weeks, which pained me because I didn't know what was going on.

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Wednesday, February 9, 2005 -
Answer by: greenfairy