About 10 days ago, this guy messaged me on Faceparty. I replied and he asked if I had MSN because he wanted to chat properly. Ever since, we've been chatting everyday.
We chatted about the usual stuff the first night...family, friends, school, work etc etc. He mentioned that he just split up with his girlfriend at the weekend and that he's not looking to rush into anything serious right now. He also added that he thinks I'm hot...
So all was well until he asked me, 'So what are your views on sex?' I found this an inappropriate question to ask since I have just started talking to him. I then hinted to him that I didn't want to talk about that and he apologised, but then seconds later he tells me that he gets horny too much. So I was like ok...then he asks me what my views on sex are AGAIN. And continues to talk about his horniness...
Then he talks about how when he commits to someone, they have his trust. I asked him if he's just looking for casual sex and he said, 'Well that would be nice lol.' Then he said that he knows how to treat a lady - with honesty, love and respect.
He gave me his number after the first night of chatting.
The next day he asked me if I wanted to go to the cinema for a friendly get-together...of course I declined since I had only been talking to him for a day. Plus I'm not the kind to just meet people off the internet...not unless I knew them really well of course.
The more we talked, the more he flirted. I can't say I don't like the attention because let's face it, all girls love attention lol. However I've tried not to flirt back since I don't want to give him the wrong idea...but at the same time, it's flattering. I don't know if this is because I broke up with my boyfriend about 5 weeks ago and I'm just missing the attention...but he does come across as the kind of guy who is only interested in sex and nothing else.
He said something really sweet the other night. He said, 'You know what? Sometimes when I think about it, you'd make the perfect girlfriend...' This was 5 days after we first started talking. I thought it was really sweet, a bit weird since he hardly knows me but nonetheless sweet.
On Tuesday he asked me if I wanted to go out on Friday night. I said yes (I don't know why?). I asked where we were going and I suggested the cinema and he said that was perfect. Then I asked him what film he wanted to see and he said, 'Don't care as long as I have someone sexy to cuddle.' He also said, 'Have to show my affection on Friday, if you wanted of course...' I said, 'Your affection lol.' and he said, 'Hehe as my hands move onto your ass.' I found that way too forward.
Then he went on to talk about settling down and I said something like, 'Just wait until you find the right person.' and he said, 'Yeah. Maybe you.'
I'm confused. At first he talks about not wanting a serious relationship and how he only wants to have fun, and now he's talking about settling down. Neither way floats my boat. I mean, I'm only 18. I'm not looking to settle down right now. And I would definitely not want to have casual sex with him.
He went on to say, 'If I give you a cuddle in the cinema, it's just because you're really sexy and I won't be able to keep my hands off you.'
In the end I didn't meet up with him. Told him I wasn't well. Didn't feel ready to meet him so soon...plus I son't want him thinking me meeting him means I will have sex with him.
I was talking to him last night and I said that he mightn't like me when we meet up and he said, 'STOP. I think you're amazing in every way. A potential girlfriend one day.'
Sometimes I think he can be wonderful and conversation is great one minute, but then not so great the next because he ruins it by saying something that makes me feel uncomfortable (trust me, he mightn't sound that bad but over half the stuff he's said just isn't suitable to be put on the internet lol). I guess I just don't like guys that are overly forward.
Oh forgot to say, this guy is friends with one of my friend's friends...and he also works in a shop near my school. He keeps asking me to visit him, but haven't yet.
I've seen his photos...they weren't that impressive but weren't that bad either. But I can tell you that he's really cute on webcam ^_^
So yeah...I don't know what to do. My friends tell me he's dodgy, but I think I might like him >_< He wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't so forward, and I really don't like his attitude towards sex. Other than that he seems really sweet, but is that enough? Is he only wanting sex from me? Should I meet up with him or not?
Responses to this article:
--- Sunday, March 13, 2005 -
Answer by: luvalbe_kitten
Yeah...thats what I thought too. He might just be saying all that. I kind of thought that but then wanted to see what other people thought too. Thanks ^_^
--- Saturday, March 12, 2005 - Well
Answer by: eskemo
Do u think he's just saying all thatjust so he could get with u..maybe he's hinting that all he wants IS a sexual relationship but he noes its not what u want to hear soo he says how an amazing GF u might be..and maybe ure falling for it. BUT you should meet him with a friend or soo check him out for yourself and see what he's really about in person. No cinemas until u noe you'll be comfy around him without anyone there or somethng like that.....hope it helps?
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