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I think I love her, can't stop thinking about her.
By: marker_blue
I've had some problems and I was told this place could help me. I only hope it can. My family is pretty big. Lots of cousins, aunts and uncles, distant relatives I never heard of. You get the drift. We had a party, pretty much boring except for the few people that were my age that were there. My problem is, I can't ever seem to fall into the right love or anything. I've never been in any relationship and never had luck with this. I'll just fall undoubtedly in love then if measures are extreme or bad, It'll just fade away. I figure thatsa half love or something. The bad part is that I think I'm falling for my cousin. Now before all you idiots begin saying that is gross or I have mental issues or am a pervert, hear this. I am not blood related to anyone in my family. I've known this for as long as I can remember and I also have friends that are adopted. We're a regular adopted troupe. So it really isn't that disgusting now is it? All you hypocrites say someone can't be in love with someone they are related to. How about I just say that you can't be in love or like whoever you want. I've taken many measures against love, for any girl. Suicide, dark emotions, activities, friends, thinking about other stuff or playing video games. I'm pretty much a guy who has friends but doesn't go with the crowd. Now I am pretty sure she doesn't know I might be falling for her, and I am pretty sure she isn't falling for me. She has a boyfriend, is a tiny bit older than me, has a different outlook. Despite this, that is kind of what I crave. Not obsessively. She is beautiful, has a beautiful personality. I would die for her. So, I need -you guys- to help -me- out with this. Should I just tell her how I feel next time I see her, should I put her out of my mind and pretend life is worth living, should I be anti social and not eat anything, suicide, get a girlfriend, what? I really need some help. The last thing I want to do is upset her or anybody. If you need any other info to help, just say so. Thanks
Responses to this article:
--- Thursday, April 28, 2005 - ...
Answer by: white_rose_dion
Personally, I don't think there is anything wrong (of liking your cousin) if your adopted. If you truly do have feelings for her then you need to ask yourself "what does she think of you." Basically does she think of you as her cousin or as her adopted cousin. It may seem not like a big difference, but in a girls mind if she thinks of you as her cousin without the "adopted" part really thought of, then you're as good as blood related family, but if she thinks of you as adopted, then you have a chance of a relationship. So first find out how she thinks of you by bringing up that your adopted and seeing how she reacts. But be careful, you don't want to freak her out. Be slow and steady and wait for her to make the signals (staring at you or looking over to you and smiling at unexpected times, these are the most common signals) and let her make all the decisions, just remeber: Be true to yourself, don't start being whatever she likes, because then you aren't showing your ture self, girls like honest guys and if you can be honest with yourself and her then you have a great chance of you two hooking up. That's all i can say for now, just my final word be careful. Love, Kara
--- Wednesday, April 27, 2005 - uhhh....
Answer by: Lance_19
Well, uh.... I can only relate saying my cousins are cute. Um.... Yeah, you should probably take it easy and try to find another girl or put her out of your mind. It's easiest for me to put a girl out of my mind. If that doesn't work, talk to her about this. I'm sure she could help and would get a little sense into you if she didn't think it could work. And you said you aren't blood related to her? Well, seems fine to me. No family blood relations is fine. But you should take into thought what the parents of either would say. I do think what kisses said is really sweet though. Good luck.
--- Monday, April 25, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
i think its really sweet. now, i'm obviously not a guy, but i really think (since you're not blood-related) that you're not doing or thinking any thing wrong or gross. however, being anti-social is not a key to fixing this problem. Don't spring it on her right away....begin slowly, talking, hanging out, that sort of stuff, you know get comfortable around each other. i assume she knows you're adopted, so she shouldnt freak out or feel too weirded out by the situation. just let her know how you feel after you two get to really know each other. you dont want to wasting time with the "why's" and "what if's" good luck!!!
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