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I'm in love with her, but isit right? Please help!
By: marker_blue
I've had some problems and I was told this place could help me. I only hope it can. My family is pretty big. Lots of cousins, aunts and uncles, distant relatives I never heard of. You get the drift. We had a party, pretty much boring except for the few people that were my age that were there. My problem is, I can't ever seem to fall into the right love or anything. I've never been in any relationship and never had luck with this. I'll just fall undoubtedly in love then if measures are extreme or bad, It'll just fade away. I figure thatsa half love or something. The bad part is that I think I'm falling for my cousin. Now before all you idiots begin saying that is gross or I have mental issues or am a pervert, hear this. I am not blood related to anyone in my family. I've known this for as long as I can remember and I also have friends that are adopted. We're a regular adopted troupe. So it really isn't that disgusting now is it? All you hypocrites say someone can't be in love with someone they are related to. How about I just say that you can't be in love or like whoever you want. I've taken many measures against love, for any girl. Suicide, dark emotions, activities, friends, thinking about other stuff or playing video games. I'm pretty much a guy who has friends but doesn't go with the crowd. Now I am pretty sure she doesn't know I might be falling for her, and I am pretty sure she isn't falling for me. She has a boyfriend, is a tiny bit older than me, has a different outlook. Despite this, that is kind of what I crave. Not obsessively. She is beautiful, has a beautiful personality. I would die for her. So, I need -you guys- to help -me- out with this. Should I just tell her how I feel next time I see her, should I put her out of my mind and pretend life is worth living, should I be anti social and not eat anything, suicide, get a girlfriend, what? I really need some help. The last thing I want to do is upset her or anybody. If you need any other info to help, just say so. Thanks
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--- Saturday, May 7, 2005 - whatever
Answer by: marker_blue
Thanks, and whatever to everyones thoughts and advice. I posted before in April, got advice from one person, a friend, and myself disguises myself. I eventually told another friend about it before the one who posted. She tried to help, all you tried to help. My mind tried to help. It didn't very much. I came to the end that I just want to see her happy. I don't want to tear her from her boyfriend, I don't want to make her feel weird or anything. I'm not even going to tell her because she doesn't need to know about this. I just want to see her happy. I have gone through different phases and survived all of them. I've survived this one, and I'm guessing I'll survive death as well. Thanks for what help you all offered. I'll just go back to being, eh, myself.... Maybe that's a bad idea...hmm....I should take a perspective on the average and normal teenager....interesting.... Thanks. Bye. .......
--- Friday, May 6, 2005 -
Answer by: tanny
I think you should let your feelings pass. Even if the 2 of you think it would b a good idea to try it, everyone and their mother wouldn't. Maybe your not really falling for her, just feeling lonely. It happens. I think maybe you shouldn't go all out for just any girl. If your feelings are reciprocated, then do as done.
All good things take patience. I felt similar to what u stated about no luck in love and when I got hurt in a relationship, I thought about bad stuff and felt depression. But I stayed patient and have been with my bf for 1 and 1/2 years. It will come. Trust me.
--- Tuesday, May 3, 2005 - Look....
Answer by: Lost_In_Love
Ok i know you've had trouble with girls and all, but just wait it out, I've had this problem before with the whole like ur cousin deal, cuz my family is big too, but i finally got over her, and i found some really kool people. I dont have a gf rite now, and my life has pretty much been like urs, no luck watsover, but get to know some other girls, u could find them to be really intersting, even if u don't think so, or thought u would never like them :-D. So just wait it out, get to know other people, and DONT commit suicide, i know u think life isnt worth living yet, but trust me, u'll change ur mind :-D, i did. anyways hope i helped and hope u listen bye!
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