I think I’m in love with one of my best friends. My dilemma is whether to tell her or not.
She seems to have attachment problems and is uncomfortable with anyone getting too close to her both physically and mentally, but she tells me personal stuff and always does things like sit fairly close to me even if there is space elsewhere. I dont know how she feels about me but these seem like fairly good signs. I have told her that I liked her in the past but she just quickly changed the subject and seemed to ignore it. Over the past week we’ve spent a lot of time together but its always been with other friends around.
She always reacts well when I compliment her on her looks and things but I don’t know how she would react if I told her I love her. Im just scared that she may get a bit freaked out and try to avoid me. Should I tell her or just leave it and see if anything develops?
Responses to this article:
--- Monday, June 6, 2005 - Kisses:
Answer by: GreenDayShe
This is the last off topic thing I'll post. Kisses, I'm honored. I have admired your advice for a long time, and that you always try to help, no matter what. You rock. Peace out, +Lucy+
--- Friday, June 3, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
You should-you give great advice-you seem to have a lot of background knowledge on life's situations in general and know how to handle yourself when faced with such a situation. That's wonderful!!! :)
--- Friday, June 3, 2005 - =D
Answer by: GreenDayShe
-off topic- =D I feel special!
--- Friday, June 3, 2005 - good advice
Answer by: kisses
now that i think about it, i completely agree with GreenDayShe. Maybe you're not the right one for her, but in the future, she may want someone like you. She really does sound like a person who may not be ready for commitment yet...and is more comfortable with just being friends-good friends. good luck-and even if the feeling arent reciprocated, still try to be her best friend and be there for her!
--- Thursday, June 2, 2005 - ...
Answer by: GreenDayShe
Hey! It's like me! at least, your best friend seems like. But that's beside the point. If I didnt have my suspisions I would say go for it like the rest of these people say. But I do have suspisions so here is what I advise:
You can never know if she really does like you the way you like her. I'd say to tell her, but you may want to expect rejection. It may happen. She may just think of you as her really good friend, and wants nothing more than that. She seems like it from her description. She's probably a person who doesnt like commitment and all that jazz, and doesnt want a relationship. But I advise telling her 2 things, or showing her 2 things. 1)that you are in love with her 2) what you are really like, because she may want someone that is just like you, but you have to show how you'd treat her, that you'd do everything for her, and that you can be more than a best friend. Find out what she wants in a guy (judging her, it's probably protectivity, independence (not too clingy) and sensitivity and... stuff like this. Good luck, and prepare yourself. Not to be the bearer of bad news, but rejection may happen. Good luck!!!
--- Thursday, June 2, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
Try having a serious conversation with her, and if she changes the subject-tell her its something you really want to talk about and its something she should probably hear. Even if the feelings arent returned, at least you should feel better knowing you told her how you feel for her. Tell her you love her, then just give her some time to warm up to the idea-she may not be ready, but when she is-she'll let you know if she feels the same way. Good luck!
--- Thursday, June 2, 2005 -
Answer by: kim
heyy ok i have been going out with my bestest friend since 9 months and he was facing the same problem you did before he told me he liked me....infact he should be the one writing this but whatever....it was so wierd...i didnt even like think of him in that sense and i was juss like this best frnd of urs.i didnt like peeople getting too close to me.and then he finally said those words and i first i was like what the hell??? but eventually we started out relationship and now i am soo happy!!!im soo sure things will work out...just please atleast tell her...she deserves to know and after all u dont hide things from ur best frend.best of luck!!!
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