Here's the gist of it. I love this one guy. He's amazing in every way possible and he makes me happy beyond belief. There is nothing I wouldn't do for him. I've known him for seven years and we've been lovers for nearly half a year now. We had been dating for about four months when it first happened. He broke up with me because he'd become unsure that he knew what love was. I was shattered. I've never felt true heartbreak before that day. I'd also saw him 'holding hands' with my best friend, and even tho it was only to give her comfort for something she was going through, I was still torn up. I got up though, and began picking up my pieces. A week later we got back together because he was so torn up over losing me like that. We continued dating. Then because of me being slightly unsure this time and telling him, he broke up with me again. The little bit of my heart that had healed, shattered again. I continued to try to piece it back together. He broke my heart again, in a smaller way with a simple statement later. Four times, he's broken me. But I still get up.
Now, we're back together and happy again. Trust me, I know jerks and my guy is as sweet as they come. He's never cheated on me (and yes, i would kno) and he's never lied to me or anything. Yet, we're going on six months and I get this feeling sometimes. Like there is something wrong with me. Because I feel like I shouldnt be with him. Like he deserves better and I just deserve something else. I'm not exactly putting myself down, it's just...I don't know. I love him, no doubt. And he's been hinting toward maybe asking me to marry him this coming January. So what do I do? I'm starting to become unsure about him, but why? I love him, so what's the problem? He never wronged me...so whats my deal? HELP!!!
As I'm sure you know, you're definitely in love. I know the same feeling...it's like the other person is so special it's undescribable. I too have had my heart broken by the same person, yet have always taken them back only to have the same thing happen later down the road. You're definitely into committment, and it doesn't appear that this guy is. Marriage is not a good idea if there is only one doubt in your mind. You're starting to become unsure of him because of the heartbreak you have gone through. You don't want it to happen again, but you're almost sure that it will. It's normal. If he breaks up with you again, be firm and tell him that you have given him more than enough chances. Good luck
--- Saturday, July 9, 2005 -
Answer by: kim
Hi I think you are very intimidated by him...You actually think of him as the perfect person ever and that is a good thing...but you are overdoing it!!...You think that he is like the most perfect person and you're not good enough and the truth is NOBODY is perfect...not even him.He has hurt you so many times before and you're still with..well i would do the same so I wont blame you for that but I would definitely not think of him as perfect.You gave him a chance to be with you despite of you being hurt,so obviously YOU are the bigger person.You have a large heart and he should be thanking god for giving him such a loving partner.If you really think its going to work out and you trust him to take care of your heart...say yes!! But if you're unsure...it isnt a good idea because marriage isnt a joke!
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