Ok, well lets see, this girl i pretty much like, Sara, well, over the year we've really been going on and off about each other, but i was like her close friend and crush at the same time, i helped through alot of stuff, and guys and watever, and now that its summer, she broke up with her bf, cause he just wasnt "it" u kno?
Well we went to the theatres one day, and we held hands, and we then we started kissing, and a week before, she asked if i wanted to be friends with benifits with her, and i guess i said yes, but i dont kno if she really likes me, or if she's just using me for entertainment for the moment, cause thats wat she did with her last bf, before they went out, they just fooled around and stuff, and he asked her out, and she said yes, but wasnt sure about it.
Well now they are broken up, and she might be using me. Today she went to the theatres with another guy, and this guy only wants to get some fun from her u kno? but i dont know if they did anything, so yea.....kinda sucks, any help?
You may not want to admit it to yourself, but I think this girl is using you. I was in a similar situation...I didn't think the girl was using me, but I found out later that she was. I was shocked and hurt.
Being a "friend with benefits" is basically a friendship without committment. To me, friends with benefits is just using someone. You know how her experience with her last boyfriend went. And this other guy she went to the Theatre's with "Only wanted to have some fun" with her too. It seems Sara has no committment, and likes the physical aspects of what a relationship has to offer. The good thing in your case is that you've been a close friend to her and have helped her out when she needed it. Friendship is the foundation for a lasting relationship. Just ask her if she really likes you. If she says yes, then you're all set. If she says no, accept that, and keep the friendship strong. You may be surprised with the results in the future.
I hope some of this helps...If you have any other questions you can e-mail me: nickp26@verizon.net. Best of Luck!
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