Title:
I'm not sure if she loves me as much as I love her
By: loverboy364
Ok,I'm 14 years old and I've been dating this girl for about two months and I have very strong feelings of love her,we both say that we love and miss each other a lot,and I really do love her,with all my heart.Sometimes though.....like I'll send her emails,saying how much I really love her,or that I'm missing her,which I really do,or just to tell her that I'm thinking of her.She never replies to them though,or sends emails like that,should I be concerned?Also,I have to call her,she never calls me,but whenever we do talk,our conversations are kinda......weird and filled with awkward silences,sometimes I just can't think of anything to say,and I don't know why,or whenever we see each other,its just kinda awkward,is it because she's nervous or somethin? I usually am not nervous though,is it me? Should I be concerned,what should I do?
Responses to this article:
--- Sunday, August 28, 2005 - ...
Answer by: liltxangel_bm
i think that maybe u let too much of ur feelings out too quick. i mean u have only been dating for 2 months. that may seem to be a long time to u but it isnt. i think she either just doesnt know what to say about what u tell her. or she might be starting to lose feelings for u and just doesnt want to break ur heart. tip for the future....try not to fall in love at such a young age. 95% of the time it doesnt work at a young age. so if u do try to be more careful and slow moving with the relationship. good luck. lynn
--- Sunday, August 28, 2005 - ...
Answer by: liltxangel_bm
i think that maybe u let too much of ur feelings out too quick. i mean u have only been dating for 2 months. that may seem to be a long time to u but it isnt. i think she either just doesnt know what to say about what u tell her. or she might be starting to lose feelings for u and just doesnt want to break ur heart. tip for the future....try not to fall in love at such a young age. 95% of the time it doesnt work at a young age. so if u do try to be more careful and slow moving with the relationship. good luck. lynn
--- Wednesday, August 3, 2005 - Just Be Optimistic...
Answer by: The Reality Factor
Hi LoverBoy364,
I've been in a similar situation with a girl before (if not nearly EXACT). There IS a strong possibility of her being shy here. If a girl had absolute ZERO interest in a guy, what gives her reason to be shy? If [I wasn't] interested in a girl, having a casual phone conversation with her would be straight forward. Why? Because it's no different than having a conversation with a typical friend; you have nothing to cover or to be shy about and could really "care less" about being afraid that you'll slip and say the wrong things -- which would make a girl less interested in you. But when it all comes down to dealing with someone you really are interested in, things seem to change. But this is just a possibility for such a senario.
What more can I say?
Find out what she likes to talk about and what she likes to do. This would easily break the ice for the two of you, making her even more comfortable. There are only a few reasons as to why you would have to stress about her not calling, but lets be optimistic. And because we [are being optimistic], let's just say she don't call YOU because..... well... why would she call and make a fool of herself when she's already shy to begin with? A SHY person wont just up and call you when they probably wont have anything to talk about, right? If this isn't a valid possibility to you, jokingly ask her why don't she call; put some humor into it.
--- Wednesday, August 3, 2005 -
Answer by: kim
hii listen i totally respect your feelings for her ut just as a 17 year i just want to let you know that using the word ''love'' is too strong a word to use right now...please dont take offence to what i said.Notonly are you just 14,uve only dated her for 2 months. Anyways,coming back to your problem...listen every individual has a different way of expressing their feelings and some people dont feel the need to prove it!!! I have so many friends who dont feel the need to go out of their way and express their love! Im glad you do that because girls love it and im sure she does too but you cant expect ur partner to be exactly like you right...or maybe she could just be shy and wait for a few more months...im sure she'll open up!If that still doenst work talk to her about it and tell her how much ud love for her to express her feelings but also say that ur not doubting her feelings and that u know she really likes u!! hope it works out for u kim
--- Tuesday, August 2, 2005 - talk to her
Answer by: white_rose_dion
Hey since this is coming from a girl, i have been in a similar situation. I think i understand how your girlfriend is feeling. But since I'm not so sure this time, i will give you different options, and a solution of what may be happening.
First of all, it is very likely that she has the same feelings for you in return but she is scared of how fast (girls usually don't like to rush into things, and for some 2 months is really quick, it just depends)you have said i love you. I hope i am right in guessing that it was you who said "i love you" first. i hope so. :)Anyways,she may not be sure of herself because her feelings may so hard to control. Believe me us girls are much more complicated than guys, and it is harder for us figure out what we are feelings. So a solution to find out if you should be concerned is the next time you talk to her and there are those awkward silences ask her if anything is wrong, ask her if she needs some distance, that if your're crowding her, it quite possible that that is what she's feeling. Talking to your gf is the best solution. Let her know that you want her to be happy, even if that means some distance. Second reason, is that she just straight not feel the same way, she may feel that this relationship was just a temporary thing until school starts again, and that she wasn't going to take it as seriously as you apparently are. I give the same solution, talking is the key to this problem i think. Last of all, and certainly least, she could be cheating on you. But i doubt that. Talking once again is the same key. But for this option, you do not want to straight out and ask her if she's cheating. Because she could dump in a heart beat out of insult. So try talking for the first and second one, and if she still doesn't open up and tell what SHE wants then try the third, it may shock her into telling you what's up. So i hope all goes well, and if anything new happens soon, please i would love to hear about it, or if you need any more advice, please feel free to e-mail me at; white_rose-dion@yahoo.com Love from a friend, Kara
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