I have a great boyfriend which I love so much! We've been going out for just over a yr and I thought everything was going great. I'm only 18 and this is only my second bf. The thing is I have jus started this course @ college and made loads of new friends which was great, but recently there has been this guy.. we sit next to each other and we have the biggest laugh... we have lil 'fights' and he keeps looking @ me with a lil smile and sortta glazed eyes.. and he seems to listen to everything I say. Also when he found out that I was getting the same train as him he said I tell you what i'll walk ya to the station and waited for me @ the end of the lesson. When we were walking down the stairs he said he didn't want to miss his train and he kept sayin that I was too slow so I started teasing him and said what you gonna do about it and guess what he atucally picked me up and carried me down six flights of stairs both of us laughing! Ever since then I can't seem to get him out of my head even though I know its sooo wrong! What do I do coz I love my bf but this guy I have even daydreamed about kissing him! I also have to see him everyweek!
hey thank you sooo much for ur responses n i was thinking about staying with my bf thats until I went back into college.. and he was there we had again! the biggest laugh and he even drew on my back lol don't ask! n he invited me out for a drink after college and even though I knew I shouldn't I said yes.. but it wasn't jus us two his m8 came along to n i became a tad shy and not my usual self... oo n I found out that he has a gf but he said that there not close anymore and after she dumped him for the sixth time in a yr n half he doesn't want to b with her nemore... and ever since I can not get him out of my head.... he kisssed me on the cheek n hugged me gdbye when he got off the train n i was even skipping down the street! lol when i went out later with a m8 because I couldn't get him outta my head! but now im not @ college for another 2 wks n I don't have his number.. I don't know what to do.. I've asked my m8 if she sees him 2 casually ask him if he wants my number as he won't c me 4 two wks... he thought that he would c me 2mz but my class has been cancelled so im not going in now. Was that the right thing to do or am I coming off despreate?
--- Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - oohhhh ok
Answer by: eskemo
So you have great boyfriend, but this amazing guy that carried you through a flight of steps has got you thinking. You KNOW that saying never leave the one you love for the one you like? Yeah well not that THAT saying matters. You should rationalize here. Well you sound really excited about the other guy, i can tell by all the !!!!!'s and just I suggest you DONT leave your boyfriend. But If this guy is lacking what your boyfriend has, then the other guy probably will lack what your boyfriend has. It also sounds like you already have your mind sent on Buff Stair Case Guy, no? Chances are even if you do go for him, your not only gaining someones "heart" your loosing another, and you might not even get along with this other guy. He knows your in a relationship, It makes a guy wonder what if she'll do this to me? Once he's thought that, then there might be a lack of respect! OR If there's some reason that you and your boyfriend aren't going well and this guy makes you happy. Then go for it, but i suggest you don't. Have the other guy around as an ego boost, I hear it's good for ya...........I WROTE ALL THIS OTHER STUFF AFTER THIS AND IT DELETED..SEE BUT I COPY AND PASTED BECAUSE I KNEW THIS GAY SITE WOULD DELETE IT. i'll try to finsih what iwas saing..now im in a hurry. Hhaha well I said something about Letting things happen naturally, dont think ahead. ANd if this guy is lacking waht your boyfriend has, then the other guy will porbaly lack what your boyfriend has as well. Don't break the guys out though....for cryin' out loud!!! If he's that great he doesn't deserve that or you. Chances are you'll get with the other guy and regret it, Once the other guy knows he has you in his grasp. He'll ALSO remmeber that you DO have a boyfriend, and all respect goes down the crapper, trash, garbage. Whatever, but i knowhow you feel it's all in temptation. And YOUR 18, handle yourself woman ;]. Just kidding, Im 15 a year with my boyfriend. So many complications.......but ya anyway. This isnt mine to talk about me, its yours. have fun remember RATIONALIZE alot a lot
--- Tuesday, October 11, 2005 -
Answer by: IDIOTsinCRAZY
lemme start by saying [and yet, there seems to be room in every post for this] that what youre thinking isnt wrong. theres always that chance of someone who is happy with their situation to find someone else theyre happy with. let me also say that this is not a decision we can help you make. all we could dois persuade you to take either side": stay with your bf, or go with this new feller [which isnt kool, cuz we dont know you, or him, or the other him...] sorry, maybe someone else has an idea?
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